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Is the "ick" real or are we just self-sabotaging?

Nicole Wright · February 1, 2026

I keep seeing people talk about getting "the ick" over the most minor things — the way someone chews, their laugh, how they park their car. Are we genuinely turned off or are we finding excuses to leave because we're scared of intimacy? I got the ick with my now-husband early on because he wore cargo shorts. CARGO SHORTS. If I had followed the ick I would have missed out on the love of my life. Can we discuss?

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Megan Torres
Your ex sounds like my ex's long-lost twin. The audacity of these men.
Sophie Chen
Just went through this exact situation. It gets better, I promise.
Rachel Kim
SAME. I'm so tired of being the only one putting in effort.
Emma Davis
I think 6 months is fine IF you've had all the hard conversations first.
Priya Sharma
This is such important advice. Bookmarking this.
Maya Johnson
This really resonated with me. Going through something so similar right now.
Taylor Brooks
My non-negotiable is emotional intelligence. If he can't name his feelings, we're not compatible.
Aisha Patel
I needed to hear this today. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Hannah Lee
Just screenshot this entire thread for my notes app lol
Lily Martinez
My non-negotiable is emotional intelligence. If he can't name his feelings, we're not compatible.

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