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Green flags checklist I made after years of ignoring red ones 🟢
Lily Martinez · November 28, 2025
Made this for myself but figured I'd share:
✅ They communicate when something bothers them instead of going silent
✅ They're kind to service workers
✅ They ask about your day AND actually listen
✅ They respect your boundaries without making you feel guilty
✅ They introduce you to friends and family
✅ They take accountability when they mess up
✅ They support your goals even when it doesn't benefit them
✅ They show up consistently, not just when it's convenient
What would you add?
Replies
Rachel Kim
Been married 12 years. The butterflies fade but they get replaced by something deeper and better.
Sophie Chen
Girl, RUN. I stayed in a similar situation for 2 years and it only got worse.
Priya Sharma
I'm screenshotting this green flags list and sending it to every woman I know.
Aisha Patel
I was in your exact shoes last year. Here's what I did...
Lily Martinez
My non-negotiable is emotional intelligence. If he can't name his feelings, we're not compatible.
Jasmine Williams
THIS. This is why I love this community. Real talk from real women.
Megan Torres
Just screenshot this entire thread for my notes app lol
Emma Davis
Wait, are you dating my ex? 😂 But seriously, this is textbook avoidant behavior.