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What's your non-negotiable list? Let's compare notes
Zara Ahmed · August 18, 2025
I'll start: emotional availability, consistent communication, shared values about family, and someone who actually reads books (yes this is non-negotiable for me 😂). I used to have a list of 30 things but therapy helped me narrow it down to what actually matters. What are your absolute non-negotiables? Not preferences, not nice-to-haves — the actual dealbreakers.
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Rachel Kim
This is such important advice. Bookmarking this.
Megan Torres
SAME. I'm so tired of being the only one putting in effort.
Taylor Brooks
Just went through this exact situation. It gets better, I promise.
Lily Martinez
I literally created an account just to respond to this. You are NOT overreacting.
Priya Sharma
This comment section is giving me life. I love this community.
Zara Ahmed
Adding to this — "Why We Love" by Helen Fisher is also incredible.