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Modern Dating Culture
In a good enough relationship, people have high expectations for how they're treated. They expect to be treated with kindness, love, affection, and respect.
Summary of Gottman · 12 min read
Modern Dating Culture
Societal Shifts and Changing Norms. Age-gap relationships are becoming more accepted as societal norms evolve. The rise of individualism and declining ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 12 min read
Modern Dating Culture
Men and women receive equal pay and are expected to perform similar roles in the home and in wider society ... dating culture, it is the man's feelings that need ...
Summary of Theguardian · 12 min read
Breakups & Healing
Be patient. Show yourself grace. Each day, put one foot in front of the other. Persistently apply those skills that have served you well in other difficult ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 12 min read
Marriage & Long-Term
Dr. John Gottman says it's possible to predict whether a relationship will succeed or end in the heartbreak of infidelity, but it's not all doom and gloom.
Summary of Gottman · 15 min read
Marriage & Long-Term
As part of his research, Dr. John Gottman conducted a study with newlyweds, then followed up with them six years later. Many of the couples remained together.
Summary of Gottman · 15 min read
Attachment Theory
Secure attachment transforms and becomes an internal “psychological shelter.” Resilience is relational and developed through connection. Secure attachment does ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 15 min read
Success Stories
Where once daters were duped by soft-focus photos and borrowed chat-up lines, now they're seduced by ChatGPT-polished banter and AI-generated charm.
Summary of Theguardian · 12 min read
Success Stories
We want to hear from people in the UK who met their partners within three months of joining a dating app. Guardian community team.
Summary of Theguardian · 16 min read
Red Flags & Boundaries
Another red flag is when the person tells you that you are "the bomb" way too soon. That may be part of love bombing—a manipulative tactic to gain your trust ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 13 min read
Self-Growth
1. Keep Promises, trust begins at home. Each thing you commit to yourself gives you a chance to either build or diminish your self-esteem.
Summary of Psychologytoday · 12 min read
Communication Skills
The check-in is great for relationships but they can feel awkward. Here is a formula for an effective relationship check-in, one that will feel good.
Summary of Psychologytoday · 16 min read
Communication Skills
There are four communication patterns that predict whether a couple will stay together or break up: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Summary of Gottman · 11 min read
Breakups & Healing
· Create intentional moments · Get curious · Make space for hard emotions · Reconnect with yourself · Takeaway.
Summary of Healthline · 12 min read
Marriage & Long-Term
John Gottman suggests couples share a six-second kiss each day, which he calls a “kiss with potential” because research has shown that it can often lead to ...
Summary of Gottman · 12 min read
Attachment Theory
Enduring a terrible relationship might lead to a less secure attachment orientation; a history of supportive relationships may lead to increased security. ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 14 min read
Red Flags & Boundaries
Toxic friendships cause chronic emotional exhaustion and cycles of anxiety and self-doubt. Fear of social isolation leads people to stay in harmful ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 16 min read
Communication Skills
The antidotes to contempt · Short-term: Describe your feelings and needs · Long-term: Build a culture of fondness and admiration.
Summary of Gottman · 19 min read
Dating Apps & Technology
A growing body of research suggests dating app use may be associated with loneliness, body dissatisfaction, anxiety, compulsive engagement, emotional ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 13 min read
Dating Apps & Technology
In a recent survey from the Pew Research Center (2023), approximately 30% of all US adults have used a dating site or app. Yet, the average user age of ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 21 min read
Relationship Psychology
is a form of psychotherapy that helps individuals resolve their problems in the context of their family units.
Summary of Psychologytoday · 12 min read
Relationship Psychology
Is the Gottman method evidence-based? Yes, this method is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy. The method is based on more than 40 years of research ...
Summary of Psychologytoday · 13 min read
Relationship Psychology
Neutrality in couples therapy can sometimes cause harm instead of healing. Power imbalances, betrayal, or abuse require therapists to take a stand.
Summary of Psychologytoday · 14 min read
Modern Dating Culture
And Irish research found 13% of men and 7% of women, with 16% of 25-34 year olds, have pursued romance with AI chatbots. I sketched it out for my friends. “Your ...
Summary of Theguardian · 9 min read